Hello and thank you for visiting SuzyKnew! SuzyKnew! was started in 2011 by an international group of women clinicians, marketing specialists and education advocates mainly from the African diaspora. Our goal is to advance the reproductive and sexual health and sexual pleasure of women of color so we can make our own decisions about sex and love.  We aim to bring you increased pleasure and better health.  Join the conversation and share your experiences and concerns



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  1. Stella Arthur May 12, 2012 at 3:31 pm · Reply

    Im 27 years and have never reached orgasm ,do u think i have a problem?

  2. Stella Arthur May 12, 2012 at 3:31 pm · Reply

    Im 27 years and have never reached orgasm ,do u think i have a problem?

    • Suzy Knew May 19, 2012 at 2:47 am · Reply

      Sweetheart, sadly, you are not alone. I know women who are much older than you who have never had an orgasm. So, let me assure you, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you that a little self-exploration, fantasy and encouragement can’t fix.
      But, before you address the physical issues, you need to address the psychological and emotional ones. You need to have a long conversation with yourself to figure out if there is some reason, other than a physical one, that you can’t reach orgasm. Maybe you feel guilty about your sexuality, and that’s what’s holding you back. Maybe you are conflicted by your religious upbringing, which promotes the notion that sex is only for procreation within marriage. Could it be that you were taught that only unclean or naughty women enjoy sex? Only you can answer these questions … but it is going to require an honest and maybe even painful discussion with yourself.
      The next thing you need to do is spend some quality time with yourself. Yes, I am talking about masturbating. You can’t expect anyone else to be able to take you someplace you haven’t been by yourself. Getting to know your body and its responses is absolutely necessary for you find your bliss.
      So, choose a time and place where you can be alone for at least an hour or two. Turn off the lights, get comfortable and relax. Light some candles, if you need to; turn on some soft music if it helps. The point is you need to be completely relaxed.
      You’re also going to need an open mind, as well. Let your mind wander to those secret thoughts that turn you on and get your juices flowing. There’s no room for guilt in your fantasies, so leave all that baggage behind. Nothing is taboo, here. Everything is fair game.
      Next, touch yourself. Explore your body. Pay close attention to what feels good to you. Listen to your body’s responses and let go. Take your time. Don’t rush and don’t try too hard. Just let your mind and your body work in harmony. If your mind is open and free, and your body is responding, you will get there.
      Here’s the most important thing to remember, though. It may not happen for you the first time you try it. Like anything, this takes practice. So be patient with yourself. Take your time and enjoy yourself. Forgive yourself. And most importantly, love yourself.

  3. naboulove May 14, 2012 at 1:31 pm · Reply

    Awesome initiatives Ladies u rock. xoxo Will definitely put you in my blogroll. I think women from Africa can benefit a lot from your site . thanks

  4. Reindolf August 1, 2016 at 9:35 am · Reply

    Hi Suzzie,
    I am a 29 year old guy, i think i have a problem i am too shy to talk about. All i seem to think about is sex and even after a good round of it, i still want more of it. Help needed here

    • SuzyKnew! August 3, 2016 at 10:01 pm · Reply

      ASK JANICE will replay shortly. Keep watching SuzyKnew! for a response.

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