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Too Old For Roommates? Think Again. Guest Blogger Eleanore Wells – Spinsterlicious

By now, we all know about the rise in single people and that, for the first time in U.S. history, there are more single people than there are married people.

And because of this growth in the number of single people, all kinds of interesting things are happening to change the status quo.  For example, having roommates used to be a temporary step until you got yourself together: while in college –or- shortly after graduating but before finding a job with an income high enough for you to afford your own place –or- before you set up house with your significant other.

Having a roommate used to be something only young people do…but not anymore.

I recently came across a book called My House, Our House by Louise Machinist, Jean McQuillin, and Karen Bush, three single women who bought a house together and have been successfully living together as grown-up roommates for seven years, and counting.  They call it “cooperative housing” and it may be the next new wave of living styles, as more people remain unmarried but don’t necessarily want to live alone.  The book even has a quiz in the back to help you decide if cooperative living is for you.

And while seven years ago, what Louise, Jean, and Karen were doing might have been seen as odd, it’s becoming a little more common.  The NY Times recently ran an article on the growing numbers of people –often women, but not always—who are shacking up with likeminded adults.

This concept, also called communal living, is an opportunity for people who aren’t married but don’t necessarily want to live alone to share their lives with people who think like they do.  It’s also an opportunity to save money and to go to bed at night with the consolation that if you have an emergency, someone is there.

Beyond the financial and security advantage, there are other upsides to having grown-up roommates, including having someone to share the housework and cooking, built-in companionship, and someone to kill bugs if that’s not your thing.

If you’re thinking about this, background checks and references are essential.  Plus, you should spend some time with your potential roomies to make sure you really do get along.

I kind of like this idea.  While I love living alone, I can appreciate that there may come a time when I no longer want to and I like that there’s a reasonable option.  I envision a situation like the Golden Girls, where I’m living, laughing, fighting, and just having fun with a couple of girlfriends on an all-the-time basis.  This could become a new normal. It’s an interesting concept that I bet we’ll see more of in the coming years.

President Obama Addresses SuzyKnew And Other Women Bloggers At BlogHer 2012

President Obama

President Obama addressed SuzyKnew and 5,000 other women bloggers at BlogHer’s 2012 Conference held in New York City from Aug 2 – 4.  Welcoming us on our first day, Obama spoke about the policies and issues that affect women’s lives, including Obamacare, which increases women’s access to contraceptives and better reproductive health.  (See Obama’s full address on BlogHer’s website.)

The 8th annual meeting of mainly female bloggers was pretty exciting to me.  There were key note addresses and talks by Martha Stewart, Katie Couric, Soledad O’Brien and others. (See the SuzyKnew Facebook page for pictures of these ladies and female bloggers SuzyKnew follows.) The sessions covered everything from raising children while building your business to the latest in blogging technology. (Ok – Yes, I’m still trying to figure out how to apply all the lessons I learned from this latter session.)

Of course, I had to attend the Erotica Out In the Open  panel that Ariel Loren, from Corset Magazine, told me about. Blogging and the internet are supporting more and more women in accessing sexual literature as well as health information, building large global communities around issues as well as small communities for specific concerns. Besides Ariel, the panel  included Queerie Bradshaw whose spicy blogs mainly on lesbian and queer sex include  Nothing Up In Here But Dry Vagainas and Sienna Fein from datingseniormen.com, whose posts on “geriatric love,” as she described it, keep you amused and inspired.   The panel moderator was Twanna A Hines from Funky Brown Chick ,  who talked candidly about how religion affects her sex life, answering my question about how religion can be a positive influence on women’s sex lives.  For me, meeting them all was a treat.  I also met Ana Santos from www.sexandsensibilities.com, a site that engages Filipina women to be sexually sassy and healthy.

Other bloggers I ran into: Eleanore Wells from Spinsterlicious another SuzyKnew friend, Demetria A. Lucas a.k.a.  A Belle In Brooklyn,  Issa Rae from Awkward Black Girl and of course others.

The conference had over 130 sponsors, many of whom had booths. Free stuff galore.  Can you believe I got 4 free vibrators, including the ones from Trojan’s new launch? The first person to leave a comment will get one of the vibrators mailed to them. Good luck!