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SuzyKnew! is dedicated to improving the sexual and reproductive health and sexual pleasure of women of color.

The Father Of Your Unborn Child May Kill You…

According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, of the 1.5 million women sexually or physically assaulted by an intimate partner in 2015, 324,000 were pregnant when attacked, or about 21 percent.

Crystal Taylor was one of these women, and it took her family decades before they brought her killer to justice. If you’re a Dateline fan like me, you saw Crystal Taylor’s story last Sunday. Her sisters said Crystal told them when she got pregnant, “If anything happens to me, it’s Derek (her boyfriend and unborn baby’s father). ” Her sisters didn’t pay attention to this comment – until Crystal turned up dead. If you know someone who is in this situation or if you are, you are not alone. Say something. Tell someone.

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness month in the U.S. Many women, especially pregnant women, are in precarious situations.  To read more on the topic of maternal mortality in the U.S. in the Women’s Health article: “Death By Pregnancy: Why Are So Many Moms-To-Be Dying?” For more on Crystal’s story, click on the trailer.

Where Were You September 28 – International Safe Abortion Day?

Ladies – don’t tell me you missed it.  But, September 28 was International Safe Abortion day.  Where were you? With all the anti-abortion rhetoric these days due to The Donald and the conservative winds he ushered in, you probably didn’t know this day was going on. It didn’t get a lot of attention.

Even SuzyKnew! was asleep at the switch. But, all the anti-abortion groups came out the woodwork. Google Safe Abortion Day and see what comes up.

September28.org is the official site

So, in honor of this day, we’ll go over a few important stats and graphs so you will feel you have done your part in getting accurate information on the topic to share with others.

First –  How many unsafe abortions are there a year? 

The Guttmacher Institute, the premier reproductive health organization whose mission is to research this topic and other reproductive health issues, states worldwide there are 25 million unsafe abortions, or 45% of all abortions

Guttamacher estimates that there are around 56 million abortions worldwide each year. Most unsafe abortions (97%) take place in developing countries. But, this does not mean we in the States could not see unsafe abortion become a problem in light of the current political environment.

What are the abortion trends worldwide? The number of abortions has gone down in the States which could contribute to the rise of states taking steps to ban abortion believing its affecting fewer women. But, in developing countries – especially those that have restrictive laws against abortion, limited access to contraception, and weak health systems – abortion is increasing.

Here’s a brief news clip on what happened in South Africa on Safe Abortion Day

 

 

 

 

Fertility Friday: Thyroid, Adrenals, And Fertility With Dr. Aviva Romm

This weekend, we share Fertility Friday’s podcast on thyroid, adrenals and fertility with Dr. Romm, a midwife, herbalist, and Yale-trained MD, who is board certified in Family Medicine with Obstetrics. Dr. Romm has been bridging the best of traditional medicine with good science for over three decades.

She is considered one of the world’s leaders in botanical medicine and is the author of 7 books on natural medicine.

In today’s episode, Fertility Friday dives dive into thyroid and adrenal health, and how it can impact fertility and the menstrual cycle.

Topics discussed include:

  • The lack of in-depth women’s health studies in traditional medical school
  • How to choose the right practitioner
  • The function of the adrenals vs. thyroid
  • What factors keep the stress response system chronically activated
  • How insulin resistance is a main cause of PCOS
  • Signs your adrenals may be in overdrive
  • The 3 key things to reset your adrenals
  • The importance of keeping your blood sugar balanced
  • How getting enough sleep benefits your body and stress system
  • How cortisol impacts thyroid function
  • Does the pill affect thyroid function?
  • How problems with your adrenals or thyroid affect fertility
  • How to handle hypothyroidism when pregnantal cycle.

Click here for more information and the podcast.

 

More On Sex Toys: ASK A SEX THERAPIST

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What are some good types of toys for beginners to use during partnered sex?
Bullets are small vibrators that can be easily incorporated in partnered sex. It can be used for direct clitoral stimulation or can be placed on a scrotum for a different sensation. However, if you’re interested in anal play, be sure to only use toys with a flared base. There are lots of vibrating anal toys available if that’s a sensation you’d like to explore. Also, there are some toys that are marketed specifically for partnered sex that may be fun to explore.

Do you recommend people use a new toy by themselves first, before using it with a partner?
It might be a good idea to familiarize yourself with the toy, just so you know how it operates. However, it could be fun to experiment with your partner for a fresh-out-the-box experience. It’s all about your preferences.

Anything else you think people should know about incorporating sex toys into partnered sex?
When approaching this conversation, be open to your partner’s concerns and explain that sex toys can benefit you both.

De-Andrea Blaylock-Johnson is a licensed clinical social worker and sex therapist in private practice at Sankofa Sex Therapy, LLC. She’s on the Executive Board of the Women of Color Sexual Health Network and has been featured as a sexpert on Ebony.com, Shape.com, and WomensHealthMag.com. She recently appeared in “Antigone” a play about the events in Ferguson, MO. Check out her YouTube show, Ask A Sex Therapist, where she answers your questions related to sex and sexuality and visit her website, SankofaSexTherapy.com

Fertility Friday: Essential Oils And Your Hormones

Today, we share Fertility Friday’s episode on essential oils and your hormones. Dr. Mariza Snyder,  who is the author of six books including The DASH Diet Cookbook and her most recent book The Essential Oils Hormone Solution, discusses how to bring essential oils into your life.

Dr. Synder has been featured on Dr. Oz, the HuffingtonPost, and in Women’s Health, Shape and Self magazines. She has lectured at wellness centers, hospitals, conferences, and corporations on hormone health and essential oils, nutrition, and detoxification. She is also the host of the Essentially You Podcast.

Click here for the podcast and more information.  Topics discussed in today’s Fertility Friday podcast include:

  • What are essential oils?
  • The non-invasive healing powers of essential oils
  • How to bring essential oils into your life
  • Can oils help with balancing hormones?
  • The impact of oils on fertility and menstrual pain
  • Managing stress with essential oils
  • Are essential oils safe to use during pregnancy?

 

The Media Catches Melania Kissin’ Trudeau

Ladies, have you ever found yourself in public and in a stressful situation? The stakes are high, the pressure is on, and you could really use some comfort.  Then, out of no where, a dashing, handsome man comes forward to greet you with a kiss, and you just lose it. You melt.  You just can’t hide your affection for the man, who has rescued you, if only for a brief moment.  You just let your passion flow and show.

The only problem is, if you’re the first lady., everyone is watching you all in your feelings on camera.  Over the weekend during the G-7 Summit, the media caught Melania kissin’ the Canadian Prime Minister,  Justin Trudeau.  Trudeau made his move on Melania when the Donald was looking the other way.  And caught on camera is Melania letting all her feelings come out in one a big wave.

Ladies, we are left wondering what did that kiss do to Melania? Obviously, it did something because she is clearly swept off her feet.

We also want to know why can’t the Donald do this his woman?  Obama can.  Remember how Obama made Melania laugh at Bush senior’s funeral? And, why is Melania so easily emotionally overwhelmed by all these men greeting her with a kiss or making her laugh? Can’t she get any good lovin’ at home so she doesn’t embarrass herself or the nation when she goes out?

I mean geewhiz. Control yourself, lady. It can’t be that good…

Or does Melania know something about Trudeau and Obama, that we don’t…?

A picture is worth a thousand words.

Photos courtesy of Carlos Bario/Reuters, CTV, and cheat sheet

 

Fertility Friday: The Magnesium Miracle Plus Magnesium & Your Menstrual Cycle – Dr. Carolyn Dean MD, ND

This Friday we share Fertility Friday’s podcast on magnesium and how it affects your overall health, including your menstrual cycle and fertility.

Lisa interviews Dr. Carolyn Dean, a medical doctor and naturopath, on magnesium deficiency and why most of us do not get enough magnesium.  Magnesium deficiency can have a very negative impact on your health – and life! Besides menstrual issues, magnesium deficiency can contribute to a lack of energy, Alzheimer’s disease, depression, heart issues and more.

Click here for more information and the podcast.Lisa Hendrickson Jack

Dr. Carolyn Dean is the author of over 35 books including best seller The Magnesium Miracle along with IBS for Dummies, Hormone Balance, Death by Modern Medicine,

Introducing Sex Toys? ASK A SEX THERAPIST

How can I bring up the idea of using sex toys with my partner?

It’s important to extend empathy to your partner, understanding that hearing your partner wants to incorporate sex toys may be a blow to their ego. However, if you focus on what you already enjoy about your joint sexual experiences and introduce the idea as a way to enhance something you already find fulfilling, it may be more reassuring. Explain that sex toys are not a substitute for emotional intimacy, but an opportunity to explore different sensations that you both may enjoy.

What can I say/do if my partner feels threatened by incorporating sex toys into our sex life (like they think it means they’re not doing a good job or can’t give me what I need/want)?

A common fear some have is that sex toys will replace them or that their partner is only interested in sex toys because they’re not sexually fulfilled. However, you can have an open and honest conversation with your partner about exploring different sensations and how incorporating toys isn’t seeking to replace them, but enhance your sexual experiences.

Read more articles by ASK A SEX THERAPIST – “Prince: Christian and Sex Positive,”  “To Grapefruit Or Not To Grapefruit” “What Does ‘Formation’ Say About Black Women’s Sex Lives?”

De-Andrea Blaylock-Johnson is a licensed clinical social worker and sex therapist in private practice at Sankofa Sex Therapy, LLC. She’s on the Executive Board of the Women of Color Sexual Health Network and has been featured as a sexpert on Ebony.com, Shape.com, and WomensHealthMag.com. She recently appeared in “Antigone” a play about the events in Ferguson, MO. Check out her YouTube show, Ask A Sex Therapist, where she answers your questions related to sex and sexuality and visit her website, SankofaSexTherapy.com

“Biblical” Advice For Sistas’

SuzyKnew!

A piece of “Biblical” advice that has been circulating around the web for a while but worth reflecting on… 

To all the girls who are in a hurry to have a boyfriend or get married, a piece of Biblical advice: “Ruth patiently waited for her mate Boaz.” While you are waiting on YOUR Boaz, don’t settle for any of his relatives: Broke-az, Po-az, Lyin-az, Cheating-az, Dumb-az, Drunk-az, Cheap-az, Lockedup-az, Goodfornothingaz, Lazyaz, and especially his third cousin Beatinyoaz. Wait on your Boaz and make sure he respects Yoaz.” -unknown

How Many Black Women Are Among Jeffrey Epstein’s Accusers?

Ladies,  Jeffrey is dead and we’re all thinking conspiracy (as in did the Administration do away with the guy…?) But, let’s step back and ask ourselves: How many Black women are among Jeffrey Epstein’s accusers?  As Black women and/or women of color we want to know how many of “us” got caught up in all of this. How many…?

None.

As far as SuzyKnew! knows there have been no Black women who have come forward to accuse Jeffery Epstein of sexual assault or inappropriate behavior.

Why?  Because Epstein didn’t date Black women.

That’s right. Jeffrey didn’t do Black women.

Virginia Roberts, one of Jeffrey Epstein’s accusers, told her lawyers, ” There was a constant influx of girls coming in and going out. And we were all very young… Young, pretty, you know a fun personality. {But,} they couldn’t be Black…”

Jeffrey didn’t appreciate Black beauty.  Virginia goes on to explain that Epstein would date non-white women, who were exotic and pretty. They just couldn’t be Black.

How many of us have encountered men like Epstein on dating sites? Men that are open to dating every type of women, even women who are old enough to be their grandmothers as long as they’re not Black?

It’s a slap in the face. An insult.

But, we have to acknowledge that sometimes this ugly truth – that there are many men out there who do not want to date Black women – protects us. Sistas’ have escaped being abused and ravaged by Epstein.

Ironic, right?

Of course, only time will tell. As more and more women feel confident to come forward to testify what Epstein did to them, following his death, maybe there will be a Black woman among them.

We’ll see.

Ladies, keep it sexy… and

Keep it healthy!

SuzyKnew!

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