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Valentine’s Day Overload

Ladies – Are you still thinking about Valentine’s Day?

Valentine’s Day was last Friday, but with the long President’s Day weekend, it seems like we’ve had Valentine’s Day forever.  All weekend I was wearing my pink and red and snacking on heart-shaped chocolates.  Today, I’m still answering Valentine’s Day wishes from friends, cousins and other family.

It’s not like my day was super romantic and that’s why I can’t stop thinking about it. Friday, I bought some nice roses for my mother which really made her happy.  Saturday, I continued the celebration eating out, selecting Valentine specials.  By the time Sunday rolled in, things were heating up on the phone with a gentleman friend. And, love and warm greetings kept flowing on Monday.

Now it’s Tuesday, and frankly, I’m exhausted with it all. I’m feeling overwhelmed and hung over. I don’t want to see anything red or pink for another year.  I didn’t find Valentine’s Day too commercial this year. It was just too much. And, too long. I mean how much lovey-dovey – whether it’s romantic, familial or other – can one person take?

I’m grateful for the season. Just ready to move on…

 

 

 

A Hormonal IUD Approved For Up To 6 Years Of Pregnancy Prevention

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Ladies – Are you looking for a long-lasting, reversible contraceptive? Would you be interested in a hormonal IUD? Late last year, the FDA approved Liletta, a hormonal IUS, inter-uterine system or IUD, for up to 6 years of protection against pregnancy. This is an increase of two years,;previous studies only guaranteed effective pregnancy prevention for 4 years. Mirena and Kyleena, other popular hormonal IUDs, are approved for 5 years and Skyla up tp 3.5 year.  Liletta is very similar to Mirena, in many ways including the amount and type of hormones used and the inserters.  The big difference is price. Liletta was brought to market by Medicines 360, a not-for-profit mainly women-run drug company. Their goal is to make this hormonal IUD option widely available to all women, even those without health insurance. The company aims to make sure no woman pays more than $150 for the product.

You can also opt for a non-hormonal copper IUD which can remain effective for 10 – 12 years and usually less than $50 without insurance and free with insurance.  But, hormonal IUDs tend to make menstruation lighter and less painful.

Want to learn more about whether an IUD – including hormonal IUDs – is right for you? Click here.

 

 

 

 

 

 

SuzyKnew! shares news and information on all quality contraceptive methods.

Photo Credit: Illustration by Brianna Gilmartin, Verywell

 

The Best Of SuzyKnew! In 2019

Yes! We are all into 2020 but let’s take a minute to see what SuzyKnew! readers were looking at in 2019.  Here are some top reads in 2019.

We look forward to brining you original articles devoted to the sexual and emotional wellbeing of women of color in 2020. SuzyKnew! will keep it sexy and healthy!

ASK JANICE SPECIAL: How Will You Celebrate World Mental Health Day?

This Good Friday Remember Black Women Who Are Victims Of Trafficking

More On Sex Toys: ASK A SEX THERAPIST

Fertility Friday: Surviving Infertility

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Fertility Friday: 3 Ways To Get Back On Track With Cycle Charting In 2020!

Lisa Hendrickson JackHappy New Year!!

From Fertility Friday: Wishing you the very best as we embark on a brand new decade! I hope you were able to relax and enjoy the holidays!

With that said, the holidays are a time for family, relaxation, and food!

Most of us tend to indulge more over the holidays — myself included — and that makes January the perfect time to reset our sleep schedules, meal plans, and daily habits to ensure we have a great year of charting ahead of us!

It’s important to have a time of celebration each year, so if you’re giving yourself a hard time for enjoying holiday bakes, drinks, or other foods you typically don’t have as much … don’t!

Hopefully you savored each bite and fully enjoyed every moment.

Now let’s talk about what we can do to get back on track!

The two main aspects of successfully charting your cycles are:
1) Actually checking for cervical mucus and/or taking your temperature (every day), and
2) Either writing your observations down, or entering them into your favorite charting app (every day).

This is something you can do while you’re in the throws of crazy holiday mode, as well as each day to help you stay on track!

Here are a few strategies that will help you stay consistent with charting when your normal routine is disrupted by the holiday season or otherwise:

1) Firmly Establish the habit of checking for cervical mucus every day
If you’re new to charting, one of the biggest challenges is getting into the habit of checking your fertile signs each day! If you’re just starting out you’ll want to commit to checking your mucus every day for at least one full cycle. Just make yourself do it. If you continue to do something for at least 30 consecutive days you’ll form a new habit that you won’t have to think about anymore!

Since I’ve been charting for nearly 2 decades, checking for mucus is as routine as brushing my teeth … now … but it didn’t start out that way.

When you go to the bathroom check for mucus both before and after you go, and then make a mental note. Once you do this for long enough it will become a way of life. Pretty soon you won’t be able to go to the bathroom without noticing. Start by committing to one full week of checking and go from there!

2) Rely on cervical mucus when your temperatures are questionable
For those nights when my sleep is disrupted or my temperatures are questionable (for whatever reason) I always have a back up — cervical mucus!

This ties into the first point. When your temperatures are questionable due to the realities of travel, time zone changes, and all the things that come up on vacations (or life in general), have your cervical mucus observations to fall back on! That way you’ll still be able to interpret your charts in spite of any temperature related challenges! Practice identifying when your fertile window begins and ends (when you start seeing mucus and when it dries up), and that will help you on those days where your temps are questionable (or non-existent).

3) Establish the habit of recording your fertile signs before you go to sleep at night.
Whether you chart on paper or use charting apps, intentionally place your charts (or your phone) in a location that will signal you to record your observations at the end of each day. Whether its your night stand, your bathroom counter, your purse, or a recurring calendar notification — create a daily cue that will remind you to enter your observations.

After years of using different charting apps, I’ve officially switched back to paper charts. If you love paper charting as much as I do, you’ll love my Fertility Awareness Mastery Charting Workbook! (Click here for details)

Make it the last thing you do before you put down your phone for the night or set an alarm to go off at the same time every night to remind you.

However you do it, you’ll be much more consistent if you find a way to make it into a habit — something you do every single night before you go to sleep.
So there you have it! The top 3 strategies I use to stay consistent with charting while I’m holiday mode.

Now I want to hear from you! How did you manage to stay on top of charting over the holidays? Let us know in our private Facebook Group.

Have a great weekend!

And as always, happy charting! 🙂
xox
Lisa
PS. Tune into this week’s podcast for a brand new on-air session with my client Kallie! We talk all about what it’s like using fertility awareness to avoid pregnancy after coming off the pill. Click here to tune in now!

PPS. I have 2 spots opening up in January for my Get Pregnant Naturally/Natural Birth Control 4-month one-on-one coaching programs! Click here for details.

PPPS. Registration is open for Fertility Awareness Mastery! There’s still one spot available for the evening time slot (8:30PM ET); and we’ve opened up a second class Tuesdays at 12:30PM ET. Click here to register now!

MLK Quotes To Keep In Mind For A Loving 2020

Ladies, it was awfully chilly at today’s Martin Luther King (MLK) Day march in Anacostia, Washington DC.  But, it was worth braving the cold to hear Martin’s “I Have a Dream” speech blasted via loudspeaker throughout the streets sending chills up everyone’s spine.

Many restaurants had MLK Day brunches. But, the one I went to (St. Anselm’s) didn’t have anything representing or comemorating the day. I was hoping for a Voting Rights cocktail or some Freedom Rider fries or just a little background music from the day to represent.  The restaurant – and most likely many others – was just taking commercial advantage of the fact many people – particularly government workers – had the day off, and they could benefit.

Shameful! Profiting from MLK Day without a lick of service or contributing to the cause!

Well, ladies, we want to want to make sure there is no shame in your game and share with you some of Martin’s inspirational quotes to keep in mind for a loving 2020:

“It is not possible to be in favor of justice for some people and not be in favor of justice for all people.” — Martin Luther King Jr.

“Let no man pull you low enough to hate him.” — Martin Luther King Jr.

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” — Martin Luther King Jr.

“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” — Martin Luther King Jr.

“We are not makers of history. We are made by history.” – Martin Luther King Jr.

In 2020 Be Obsessed With Self-Love

Happy New Year, Ladies! SuzyKnew! wishes you all the best for 2020 – and for the entire decade!

Our wish for you is that you be obsessed with self-love. Just like Lizzo.

Many predict this year will be Lizzo’s year. Lizzo’s music career has taken off in a powerful way. Her empowering message of self-love and confidence propel people to be their best.  A singer, songwriter and rapper, the Detroit native who was raised in Houston and then later settled in Minnesota, is on a mission of self-love:  she’s completely unapologetic about her body and her sexuality, and this inspires many.

Make 2020 your year where you are obsessed with self love.

Do the work it will take to get there.

Ever since her debut album CUZ I LOVE YOU at Coachella, Lizzo has been known for her outspokenness on body positivity. But, as we know, self-love didn’t come easy for Lizzo. For years she battled inner demons of negativity. It took lots of therapy before she learned how to truly love and accept very part of herself.

Now, not only is her music soaring, but Lizzo has a mean social media game with so many of her tweets going viral.

Lizzo’s tweets are filled with self-love quotes.  Here are a few to keep on hand as you start 2020:

“Smiling cause I feel like it.”

“I am my inspiration.”

“Stay true to yourself. Listen to your body. Live life only by your rules.”

“I’m done with the struggle. I just want to enjoy my body now.”

For more Lizzo self-Love quotes click here and here.

 

 

Happy Kwanza 2019

Kwanzaa for African-American cultural holiday celebration with candle light of seven candle sticks in black, green, red symbolising 7 principles of African Heritage (Nguzo Saba)

“If you have a purpose in which you can believe, there’s no end to the amount of things you can accomplish.”
Marian Anderson

Christmas Prayers And Poems

A Christmas Prayer to Re-Focus

Dear God, sometimes I get too caught in the Christmas commercialism. OK, a lot of times. Today, I’m going to refocus my heart and remember why I’m celebrating this wonderful day in the first place. I’m celebrating Jesus today…and every day! In Jesus’ name, Amen.
~ Sharon Jaynes

A Prayer of Christmas Thanks
Dear Lord, don’t let us miss You this Christmas season. Help us to simplify our activities and traditions so we can focus our celebration on Your birth. Thank You for being the Prince of Peace, and I ask You for that supernatural peace to reign in our hearts. Thank You for the simple but life-changing message of Your love for us. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Melania’s Meaness

Ladies – Why is the FLOTUS so mean…?

Sure. We’ve all become accustomed to Melania’s scowl.  Melania often looks unhappy or mad.   Many people think Melania wears a scowl because she’s trapped in a miserable marriage with The Donald, and they feel sorry for her.

But, over this last week or so, what has come out is that Melania is just straight up mean.

In spite of her #BeBest campaign, which promotes the well-being of youth and advocates against cyberbulling, this past week Melania’s spokeswoman tweeted that Melania thinks her husband has every right to mock the 16-year old climate change activist Greta Thornberg who is on the autism spectrum (like their son Barron?) By the way, The Donald made fun of Greta because she – not he – was on the cover of Time magazine.

What’s up with that?

Who does that?

What former First Lady of the U.S. has been so spiteful? What former FLOTUS has come out and attacked childreb who are trying to make the world a better place? None that I can recall.

Incredulously, just the week before, Melania went ballistic on Twitter because an Impeachment witness and Stanford law professor brought up her son Barron as an example of how the President cannot behave like a King. Melania tweeted, “A minor child deserves privacy and should be kept out of politics. Pamela Karlan, you should be ashamed of your very angry and obviously biased public pandering, and using a child to do it.”

Listen to that tone.  Really?  From a FLOTUS?

But, if we had all been paying attention since the Trumps snuck into the White House, we would have heard Melania tell us herself that she is mean.  When James Comey’s book came out, Melania lamented the contents were “disappointingly mild. ” According to The New Yorker Melania said the book isn’t as mean as the one she’s going to write. Melania declared, “Clearly, he was trying very hard to be nasty, and he deserves credit for effort,” she said. “But I will show him how it is done.”

Photo credits: The Wrap, Yahoo News, HuffPost

 

Fertility Friday: Surviving Infertility

 

Today we share Fertility Friday’s episode on the difficult topic of dealing with infertility.  Lisa’s guest is Sheridan Voysey, who is a writer, speaker and broadcaster. His books include Resurrection Year: Turning Broken Dreams into New Beginnings, Resilient, and the award-winning Unseen Footprints.  Sheridan shares his personal experience of making it through infertility from the male perspective.

Topics discussed in the episode include:

  • A look into Sheridan and his wife Merryn’s ten year infertility and adoption journey
  • How their journey led Sheridan to write his book, Resurrection Year
  • How Sheridan dealt with the grief and loss of their unsuccessful dream of having a child
  • Sheridan’s advice for couples struggling with infertility
  • The importance of putting your marriage/relationship first during this challenging time
  • Ways to deal with one partner wanting to stop trying and the other wanting to continue
  • How dealing with fertility issues can affect men in various aspects of their lives
  • The importance of also remembering to check in with men to see how they are feeling and dealing with the fertility struggles
  • Ways men who deal with lower sperm count can connect with others to know that they are not alone
  • How those who have gone through the infertility journey can use their trial to help guide, inspire or comfort others going through it
  • The importance of remembering there is so much more to you than your parental status

Click here for the podcast and full episode.