We’ve all heard of it, often during blushing, whispered conversations with our closest confidants. The G Spot: that elusive, mythical place of unlimited, erotic pleasure located somewhere on the exquisitely made female form!
The G Spot is the Holy Grail of Sexual Satisfaction for women. It’s the Unicorn of Pleasure; the Four Leaf Clover of Ecstasy. Tales of its existence are the stuff of legend and it’s so elusive, only a small percentage of women can confidently claim to have found it.
But don’t worry, Ladies. I got you. I’m about to break all this G Spot business down and give you some tips on how you (and/or your partner) can finally put your G Spot on the map.
Just consider me your G Spot GPS!
What is a G Spot and why is it called that?
I’ll get to what it is in a minute. First, the G stands for Grafenberg, as in Ernst Grafenberg (1881 – 1957), the German gynecologist best known for inventing the I.U.D. A successful Jewish doctor in Germany, Dr. G Spot (my nickname for him) was arrested by the Nazis when they rose to power prior to WWII.
Get this, though. Dr. G Spot was ransomed from the Nazis by none other than Margaret Sanger! Y’all remember her, right? She was the famous birth control activist and sex educator who founded the organization that would become Planned Parenthood. She’s the reason we use the term “birth control”! She was also a raving racist, though. So there’s that.
Anyway, Dr. G fled from Germany to the United States, where he set up practice in New York City. He lived in the US until he died in 1957.
That’s why we call it the G Spot.
But what is this G Spot thing, anyway?
Actually, the very existence of a G Spot has never been proven, though it’s been studied since the 1940s. While some studies using ultrasound have found physiological evidence of it in women who orgasm during vaginal intercourse, the jury is still out on whether it’s even really a thing.
In other words, you ain’t gon’ find it on your average anatomy textbook diagram like the uterus or the bladder.
That said, the widely accepted definition (Google it) states the G Spot is an erogenous area of the vagina that, when stimulated, may lead to strong sexual arousal, powerful orgasms and potential female ejaculation.
Many claim the G Spot feels like a rough patch of skin. It’s said to be shaped like a bean and is about the size of a quarter.
Where is it located?
Even though, after 7 decades of study, there’s no “official” proof that it even exists, I can tell you EXACTLY where it is. The G Spot is 2-3 inches (5-8 cm) up the front vaginal wall, between the vaginal opening and the urethra. The front vaginal wall is on the same side as your belly button.
It’s that close. Just 2-3 inches up the front wall of your precious yoni. And that little quarter-sized, bean shaped, slightly rough patch of nerve endings can spike your arousal like mercury on a hot summer day!
Why all the hype, though?
Here’s the rub about this whole G Spot business (pun intended): I can tell you exactly where it’s located, but I can’t guarantee you’ll find it. And that’s because sexual arousal, pleasure and satisfaction are subjective and vary from woman to woman.
You see, a man’s sexual arousal, pleasure and satisfaction (ejaculation) is necessary for the species to survive. In other words, if he doesn’t get aroused (where there’s often ejaculate in the pre-cum) and/or cum, no babies will get made and we cease to exist.
Not so for us women. Sadly, even our arousal isn’t necessary for us to get pregnant, much less our satisfaction. Think of all the pregnancies resulting from forced intercourse or just plain old bad sex!
That’s why for women, the brain (with all our thoughts, emotions, hang ups, proclivities, fetishes, baggage, religious beliefs, etc.) is the most important organ when it comes to sexual pleasure and satisfaction.
Let me say it again, for the people in the back: for women, the brain is the most important organ when it comes to sexual pleasure and satisfaction!
That’s why not all women can even have orgasms. Just think about it. Many women can’t even achieve clitoral orgasms and we know the clit exists! We can see it because it’s on the outside. Well, part of it’s on the outside. It’s actually mostly on the inside. But that’s a discussion for another day.
My point is even though the clitoris, something every human female has at birth, has 8,000 nerve endings connected to 15,000 nerve fibers in the pelvic area, many women still can’t even have orgasms from clitoral stimulation. By the way, the penis gland only has 4,000 nerve endings and most men have no problem having orgasms.
So, I guess one big reason for all the G Spot hype is that it’s even more elusive than clitoral orgasms.
But, it’s there.
How can I find my G Spot?
Use your fingers and explore (see diagram above)! Also, there’s lots of sex toys designed specifically for G Spot stimulation. The best ones are hard (as in not floppy) and slightly curved. And if you get one that also has a clitoris stimulator, you’ve hit the jackpot!
As far as accessing your G Spot during vaginal intercourse, I find being on top most effective. Experiment with angles, though. Try turning around while on top (Reverse Cowgirl), and be sure to adjust the depth of penetration. Doggy style works really well, too. But, play around with your partner. What works for me may not work for you.
Now if you haven’t already found your G Spot, don’t worry! You’re not sexually inadequate or frigid. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with you, especially if you can achieve orgasm. The main thing to remember is that what goes on inside your head is even more important than what’s going on with your body during sex.
Besides, just think how much fun you’ll have trying to find it!