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What Do You Mean Infidelity Can Be Harmful To Your Health?

Infidelity Can Be Bad For You

Okay. Who hasn’t been tempted to cheat?  Or who hasn’t encouraged a friend to step out on her man when she is feeling bad about the relationship?

I admit I’m guilty of encouraging friends to get some love on the side even though I wouldn’t do this myself. When I see how neglected and lonely my friend feels, I can’t take it and need to do something. Her husband’s lack of attention and love affects her self-confidence, her family life and her ability to excel professionally. Who can climb the corporate ladder when there is no support or love at home?  Heck. It even affects my being able to have a good time with my friend because each time we go out she goes on and on about how lonely and dejected she feels.

It’s obvious what my friend needs is some love and physical attention.  Sure, marriage counseling is all good. But, who has time for that? And, maybe I’m being selfish for suggesting she have a fling so she can feel good about herself again and we can have our old friendship back.

I know it’s wrong. The Bible and other religious books plainly state the adultery is wrong. And, if you’re not religious, you know infidelity can send out bad karma.

But, did you know that infidelity can actually be physically bad for you?  Psych Alive recently published an article revealing all: Between 30 to 60 percent of Americans will be unfaithful at some point during their marriage, and infidelity is on the rise, especially among married people in their 20’s.  But, not everyone having an affair is unhappy. Thirty-five to 55 percent of those in an affair report being happy in their marriage at the time, according to The New Monogamy.  But, it is interesting to note that those who are unfaithful are more likely to engage in risky sex, i.e., not use condoms, increasing the likelihood of becoming HIV positive or catching another sexual disease, according to the International Society for Sexual Medicine, which published the study this year. People who are having secretive affairs practice riskier sex than those in other types of relationships.

So, there’s more than just a moral reason not to be unfaithful.  There’s a health reason, too. It’s bad for you.

Next time, I’ll focus on getting my friend to seek counseling.

ASK AN OBGYN: Is There a More Effective “Morning-After” Method?


Dear SuzyKnew Obgyn:

Besides Plan B (also called the morning-after pill), is there any other way to prevent pregnancy if you’ve had unprotected sex?




Dear LaVinia,

Thank you for your question.  Yes, there are other ways to prevent pregnancy after unprotected sex.  One that has been successfully used for over 35 years is the intrauterine device (IUD).  Inserted within 5 days of unprotected sex, the IUD can reduce the incidence of pregnancy by 99%.

A study published May 5 online in the journal Human Reproduction, reviewing over 35 years of data in 6 countries on the use of  IUD’s as an emergency contraceptive, indicates that IUDs are actually more effective than the morning-after pill. Although getting an IUD inserted requires a doctor’s visit and more upfront money  than the morning-after pill, which only requires a trip to the pharmacy and a few dollars or pounds, the IUD – a long-term method – is a lot more cost-effective in the long run. This means, if leave an IUD inserted (IUDs can remain in place for more than 8 years), it will only cost you pennies per pleasure session!

While many providers in the US (unlike in the UK) may not mention this discreet medical device as an emergency contraceptive or “morning after” option , take it upon yourself to ask your health care provider to discuss using an IUD for EC the next time the occasion arises.

P.S.  To protect yourself from HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases, you’ll still need condoms with an IUD until you both have a recent HIV test. Keep it safe, ladies!


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