Answer: Let me begin by saying that there are a lot of misconceptions out there about vibrators and other sex toys … from who uses them to how and why they’re used. So let’s clear the air.
First of all, vibrators and other sex toys are not just used by lonely, horny women as a substitute for sex. I mean sure, who hasn’t reached into our nightstand when we’re “between relationships”? Especially around the same time we’ve reached for the chocolate and the salt, if you know what I mean! But this is 2011. And it’s time for us to bring vibrators and other sex toys out of the darkness of our night stand drawers and into the light of our intimate relationships. After all, toys are enjoyed most when shared and if we all play nicely, everyone can have fun!
Now, I’ll admit that there are still (even in 2011) a lot of men out there who are intimidated by the use of sex toys. Maybe they’re a little threatened by the thought that some whirling, writhing, vibrating piece of latex is able to make you shiver and squeal and sing like an angel when applied with just the right amount of pressure. Especially if that whirling, writhing, vibrating piece of latex is considerably larger than his own … toy.
But for every one man who is opposed to introducing sex toys into the game, there are ten more who would eagerly supply you with enough batteries to power the northern hemisphere. That’s because these enlightened gents understand three important facts about the mutual use of sex toys between men and women:
1. Vibrators and sex toys are awesome educational tools. Your man can watch you pleasure yourself and pay attention to where you like it, how fast you like it, and how much pressure to apply. We all know that every woman is different. What pleases you may not please me and vice versa. And men can’t read minds. And some of us are too shy to give explicit instructions to our lovers on how to give us pleasure. So, here’s a way your man can learn how to pleasure you. Let him watch and then try for himself. Perform for him. Let him watch you in all your orgiastic glory!
2. Vibrators and sex toys take a lot of pressure off your man! Maybe he’s had a rough day and finishes before you do. Then, let’s say he just doesn’t have the steam to keep going long enough for you to get there. Why would you want to lay there next to him as he snores the night away in blissful slumber, while you squirm and wiggle in frustration? You don’t have to! He can simply lean over, reach into that night stand drawer, flip that switch and help you reach nirvana so that you both can get a good night’s sleep. And he doesn’t even have to reload.
3. Vibrators and sex toys feel really good! Not all men will cop to liking to have a well-placed vibrator beneath their balls. Or under the tip of their penis. Or right at that spot between their balls and their anus. But trust me, they all like it. A lot! So, both of you can enjoy the pleasures of toys. Hey, you can even buy “his” and “her” vibrators! And if he’s a little size sensitive, stick to the smaller, non-threatening ones. That way he won’t worry about you heading for the drawer as soon as he leaves the house!
So maybe you don’t break out the “good vibrations” every night or even every week. Maybe you’ll only open up the toy box on special occasions like birthdays or President’s Day. But if you’re both open to it, and you each focus on the other’s pleasure, vibrators and sex toys can really enhance your play time. Need a discreet way to purchase a few toys?