ASK A SEX THERAPIST: Will My Boyfriend’s ‘Size’ Affect My Ability To Get Pregnant?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and we tried to have a baby. I’m starting to think that it won’t happen because though size doesn’t matter it does when you’re trying to reproduce. My boyfriend’s penis sometimes penetrates me and sometimes it doesn’t. Sex with him has always been frustrating because I’m his first and he has a tendency to climax rather quickly. I feel like it’s my fault because I have more experience and I just don’t know how to help him. What should I do?

Thanks for your question. Below are some articles that may help:

If rapid/premature ejaculation continues to be an issue for him, it may be helpful for him to work with a sex therapist to learn various techniques. Also, if you’ve been trying to get pregnant for a while, it may be helpful to speak with your physicians to see if there may be other issues at play impeding the process.




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De-Andrea Blaylock-Johnson is a licensed clinical social worker and sex therapist in private practice at Sankofa Sex Therapy, LLC. She’s on the Executive Board of the Women of Color Sexual Health Network and has been featured as a sexpert on,, and She recently appeared in “Antigone” a play about the events in Ferguson, MO. Check out her YouTube show, Ask A Sex Therapist, where she answers your questions related to sex and sexuality and visit her website,