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Dr. Drai: Why You Should Have Sex On A Daily Basis

Hi #GYNEGirls! It’s me Dr. Drai…. Are you in a relationship? If you are, are you pleased with the frequency of intimacy? If you would like to be more sexually active with your partner, you will want to set a goal for yourself. Share that goal with your partner. The two of you can make a game out of trying to achieve. To get you started, a great goal to have is having sex on a daily basis. YASSS!

Being intimate on a daily basis? Right now, you are either thinking two things. First, you may be thinking “we already do that!” If so, good for you. You officially have a happy and healthy sex life. On the other, you may be thinking “no way, there is no time.” If that is the case, know it isn’t true. You may be surprised just how many couples out there have sexual relations on a daily basis. It is also important to note that these couples often have the healthiest and happiest relationships of all.

As for why you should set the goal of being intimate on a daily basis, you will find that dong so is healthy for your relationship. As previously stated, couples who have intimacy on a daily basis often have the healthiest relationships. When in a serious relationship, intimacy is important. Yes, your relationship should not be based on sex, but it is a huge component of it. Connecting intimately shows your partner that you truly love them. So why not take steps to express your love everyday?

Your chances of experimenting are also likely to increase when you have sexual relations on a daily basis. Why? Because if you have sex daily, you may honestly get bored with that you are doing. However, instead of opting to reduce the frequency of intimacy, many couples decide to experiment instead. This is something that may provide you with excitement or a source of motivation. This experimentation may involve the use of sex toys, pornographic videos, new positions, and role playing.

Sex is also good for your health. That is just another one of the many reasons why you may want to set a daily goal. Those who have healthy sex lives are less likely to suffer from stress and depression. This may improve your relationship by limiting the amount of disagreements you and your partner have. It is also important to note that sex burns calories. What could be better than working to lose weight while being adventurous with the man or woman you love?

The above mentioned information was designed for men and women who are in exclusive relationships, such as a marriage. If you are not involved with anyone right now, daily sex may not be a wise idea for you. This is because you may end up with a different partner each and every night. A s fun and as exciting as this may sound, you may end up putting your health at risk. Remember that your risk of developing a sexually transmitted disease increases with each additional sex partner you have.

In conclusion, having sex on a daily basis is a good idea. If you aren’t already having daily sex, it may be a wise idea to set the goal. You may be surprised just how much daily, intense intimacy can help to improve your relationship. For a free copy of my latest book “20 Things You May Not Know About The Vagina” go to www.drdrai.com/vagina. Until next time… it’s Dr. Drai.

Dr. Drai: How To Eat Your Way To Better Sexual Health

Hi #GYNEGirls! It’s me Dr. Drai…. What do grapes, oysters, and chocolates have in common? Well, aside from being food, they’re all supposedly aphrodisiacs. For the unaware, an aphrodisiac is basically a food or drug that has effects on sexual health, typically by either making it easier to become sexually aroused or by boosting sexual performance. Now, while all of the above foods have been known to release varying levels of endorphins into the body in the same way sex does, they are not necessarily all that beneficial to one’s sexual health. Of course, that doesn’t mean that food and meals don’t play a part in a person’s sex life because there’s quite a bit of scientific data saying that it does.

Working from the top and going down, the brain is the core of all activity that concerns the body, including sexual functions. Replacing full meals with snacks or junk food can seriously decrease the usual flow of nutrients to the brain, making it less capable of processing all the stimuli and emotions involved in sexual activity. In short, the lack of nutrients can dampen someone’s ability to enjoy sexual intercourse.
Moving a little lower, it makes sense that sexual health is connected to the overall state of the circulatory system. Blood circulation is necessary not only for the proper functioning of internal organs but also for ensuring the functions of the male and female reproductive organs. So, if the heart or the blood vessels are in poor condition, it also has a detrimental effect on the body’s ability to perform properly during sexual intercourse. Increased or improved blood flow helps increase the sensitivity to stimuli of the appropriate organs and heightens the level of physical endurance during intercourse.

For more specific help regarding food and sexual health, some might want to look into Nitric Oxide, which is not to be confused with Nitrous Oxide. Nitric Oxide (NO) is the substance found on the lining of the internal workings of male and female genitalia. Without it, men can’t obtain or sustain an erection (even with proper blood flow), while women are unable to become lubricated, regardless of what stimulation is put in there. Some doctors suggest that the ingestion of arginine, another substance which encourages the body to produce NO. Arginine helps improve circulation and sexual health. Arginine is typically found in walnuts, almonds, and salmon.

Antioxidants, particularly the ones that are chemically abundant in dark chocolate, also have positive effects on sexual performance and health. Antioxidants are linked to improved blood circulation, something that has already been mentioned as being beneficial to sex. Other good sources include tomatoes, spinach, garlic, red peppers, and red grapes. However, some point out that chocolate somehow also increases desire along with improving performance, likely because certain components in chocolate can improve circulation.

Most people would cast the notion of eating to improve sexual health and performance as a myth, much like how deodorants supposedly cause breast cancer. However, the medical reality is that some foods can improve the systems of the body that are involved in sexual functions. For example, foods that improve circulation inevitably improve sexual endurance. I gotta go. Until next time… it’s Dr. Drai. Remember to download a FREE copy of my latest book “20 Things You May Not Know About The Vagina.” Just go here —>>> www.drdrai.com/vagina.

Dr. Drai: Healthy Sex Prevents Illness

Hi #GYNEGirls! It’s me Dr. Drai…. There are many positive correlations between love, sex, and health. Being so, it has produced many questions…..

Have you wondered if an active sex life can truly alleviate pain? Do sexually active people have fewer colds and bouts of flu? Is it true that married people live longer than single or divorced people? Can an active sex life help prevent disease and illnesses by strengthening our immune system?

I have these answers and more, read on….

An active sex life is both stimulating and rejuvenating to the glandular system. When we make love the pituitary gland, the thyroid gland, the adrenal glands, the prostate and testes in men, and the ovaries in women are thoroughly exercised. The net result is that people in love look and feel better about themselves.

Activation of the sex center in the brain has health effects on other brain centers. Every cell in the body gets this message and is strengthened by it. An active sex life strengthens our immune system. Scientists have compared the nerve endings of happy, loving and sexually-fulfilled people with unhappy and sexually-unfulfilled people.

Apparently, large numbers of immune-system cells were gathered near the nerve endings in the “happy” people. A similar microscopic exam of “unhappy” and depressed persons showed no such gathering of immune-system cells.

Scientists theorized that the nerve endings in the “happy” group were releasing neurotransmitters. These are chemicals, like adrenalin and acetylcholine, that facilitate the transmission of nerve messages.

Scientists concluded that these neurotransmitters could attract, feed, and strengthen the various immune-system cells. During sex, the heart beats twice as fast, pumping blood to the pelvis, breasts, nipples, and surface of the skin, helping get rid of toxins and bringing in nutrients. We also breathe twice as fast, bringing in more oxygen. Muscles are tensed and relaxed, alternatively. Of course, not much good is realized by those who rush through love making in ten minutes or less.

But for those who spend a leisurely hour or two, the benefits can be considerable. You and you alone can determine the success or failure of your sex and love life; your physical, mental and spiritual health; and almost every other aspect of your life.

People in love look and feel better about themselves. Okay I gotta go. Until next time… it’s Dr. Drai. For a free copy of my latest book “20 Things You May Not Know About The Vagina” go to www.drdrai.com/vagina.

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Birth Control and Alcohol: What You Need to Know
11 FUN Facts about Ovulation
10 Myths About the Female Orgasm
11 Reasons Why Women Lose Their Libido
Sex After Childbirth: 8 Things Every Couple Needs To Know
5 ways to make HIS PENIS go from LIMP to LIVELY
5 Surprising Common Causes of Vaginal Pain

Dr. Drai – 5 Ways To Make His Penis Go From Limp To Lively

Hi #GYNEGirls. It’s me Dr. Drai… Let’s talk about the penis today.

Erectile Dysfunction (ED) means your man can’t get it (his penis) up or keep it up during sex. Many men suffer from this condition- approximately 30 million men to be exact. Let’s review the basic anatomy of the penis and what happens during an erection. The penis has 4 main parts: glans (THE HEAD), corpus cavernosum AND corpus spongiosum (THE SHAFT), and the urethra (THE HOLE THAT YOU URINATE OR EJACULATE FROM). When a man is aroused from sexual thoughts or direct stimulation, nerves and hormones work to cause the muscles in the penis to relax and the corpus cavernosum and spongiosum will fill with blood causing the shaft to get hard- an erection. Another set of muscles cuts off the blood supply when the penis is erect to maintain its hardness. Once he orgasms, the blood will drain and the penis softens.

There are lots of causes. Taking prescribed medications to control blood pressure, allergies, anxiety, depression, peptic ulcer disease and or your appetite, as well as aging, and being depressed can lead to ED. Chronic illnesses such as diabetes, high blood pressure, or high cholesterol which can lead to poor blood flow to the penis can cause a penis to be limp. Drinking too much alcohol, smoking cigarettes, doing illegal drugs, even being too tired, having relationship problems, being stressed out about work or being anxious can cause this problem. Any type of damage to the penis, nerves, and arteries that help maintain his erection can also lead to ED. This is treatable fellas. Just talk to your doc- an urologist. They will do a history and physical, order lab tests. I know that you are looking online for treatments because you are embarrassed but this can be dangerous. You just don’t know what is in the medications that you get from these places. Before you turn to medications or even surgery to fix this problem, let’s discuss some ways to cope with a man who can’t get or maintain an erection NATURALLY.

1. Make him do more Cardio exercises. He needs only 30 minutes a day. This will boost his testosterone. He will also lose weight, which can help the testosterone to work better. Testosterone is one of those important hormones that work to get an erection. Exercising also reduces stress and increases blood flow.

2. Cook for him. There are nitrates in leafy greens, lycopene in tomatoes, and zinc in oysters. These essential nutrients will help keep his penis erect. Diet is so important.

3. Have more FOREPLAY with him. Try Oral Sex. ORAL just doesn’t mean the penis ladies. Play with his nipples or the back of his neck. KISS him more. Add Sex Toys in the bedroom BUT make sure they are smaller than his penis.

4. Purchase him a vacuum penis pump. This fun device will draw blood into the penis to help get it erect. If you have an increased risk of bleeding, have sickle cell anemia, or other blood disorders, this is NOT for you. This can cause bruising.

5. Try using a Cock ring. Once you get the penis erect, this sex toy will keep it that way. Silicone only please. It’s one of my FAVs.

You should also make sure your man gets his diabetes, cholesterol, &/or high blood pressure under control. Quit smoking. Make sure he doesn’t drink alcohol or do illegal drugs. Find ways to reduce his stress and anxiety. Make sure he is getting enough sleep. Get help if you are suffering from depression. Ladies try not to be discouraging. You both will overcome this. For a copy of my latest best-selling book “20 Things You May Not Know About The Penis” go to https://drdrai.com/product/book.

Until next time… it’s Dr. Drai.


Dr. Draion M. Burch, DO (Dr. Drai) – a highly respected, board-certified Obstetrician and Gynecologist – is a nationally-recognized author, speaker, consultant, and go-to media expert on women’s health and transgender health issues. He travels the country to meet with women one-on-one and in groups to provide and instruct on healthcare.Dr. Drai always makes time to genuinely help those in need. He is the founder and chief medical advisor of DrDrai.com, where he discusses actionable ideas and real-world strategies to help women take control of their health. 


Dr. Drai – Birth Control And Alcohol: What You Need To Know

Ladies, it’s the holidays. Let’s check in with Dr. Drai for a few tips to keep us sexually healthy during the festivities… 

Hi #GYNEGirls! It’s me Dr. Drai. Ladies, do you take your birth control pill right before going out to the club? Have you ever thrown up from drinking too much alcohol? Have you ever had a one night stand after throwing up? If you have answered Yes to these questions you may be at risk of your birth control pills not working properly. OMG… right? Before we dive into how alcohol affects birth control, let’s review the different types of contraception. Birth control is used for exactly what its named for- to prevent pregnancy. Some forms have added benefits like also protecting you from getting an STDs.

Here’s one of my FAV lists- 16 forms of contraception.

1.ThePill has been around for over 50 years. There are two types of birth control pills: one containing both estrogen and progesterone AND one containing progesterone only. Progesterone only pills are for limited use after childbirth. Birth control pills are meant to be taken every day. They block the ovary from releasing eggs.

2. The Patch is a thin Band-Aid looking patch that is placed on the skin once weekly. It also prevents the ovaries from producing eggs. The Patch contains both estrogen and progesterone.

3. The Ring (aka NuvaRing) is a bendable plastic ring that’s inserted in the vagina for 3 weeks by you. You take it out the fourth week to have a period. It also blocks the ovaries from releasing eggs. The NuvaRing contains both estrogen and progesterone

4. The Implant (aka Nexplanon) is a little rod that’s placed under the skin in the non-dominant upper arm by your doctor. It prevents your eggs from being released. The Nexplanon lasts for 3 years and contains the hormone progesterone.

5. The IUD is a T-shaped device made of plastic that’s placed inside of the uterus by your doctor. It works by making sperm immobile. No more swimmers! IUDs are effective for 3-5 years depending on the type you pick. There are currently 5 on the market- Mirena, Paraguard, Skyla, Liletta, and Kyleena. The Paraguard IUD is the only hormone-free one. The other IUDs contain the progesterone hormone.

6. The Depo-Provera Shot is given every 3 months. It prevents the ovaries from releasing eggs. The shot contains the hormone progesterone.

7. The Male Condom (aka External Condom) is the most popular form of birth control. It covers the penis to prevent sperm from entering the vagina AND prevents transmission of STDs. Male condoms come in all shapes, sizes, and materials. Here’s a quick guide on using a condom.

Step 1: Lubricate the inside of the condom if needed.
Step 2: Pinch the tip of the condom to prevent air bubbles.
Step 3: Roll the condom down over the tip of his hard penis.
Step 4: Leave some space at the tip so the condom can collect semen.
Step 5: Unroll the condom down his shaft.
Step 6: Lubricate the outside of the condom.
Step 7: After he ejaculates make sure he pulls out immediately. If the penis softens the condom can fall off. Teach him to hold the base of the condom while doing this tip.
Step 8: Tie a knot in the condom and throw it in the trash can NOT THE TOILET.

8.The Female Condom (aka Internal Condom) is a pouch that’s inserted into the vagina that also prevents sperm from entering the vagina AND this condom prevents STDs. Here’s a quick guide on using this type of condom.

Step 1: Find a comfy spot. Stand with one foot on a chair.
Step 2: Squeeze the closed thicker inner ring together with your fingers
Step 3: Insert IT in the vagina just like a tampon. Put the condom in as far back as possible.
Step 4: Let the open thinner outer ring hang on the outside of the vulva.
Step 5: Please guide the penis into the opening of the condom. Don’t trust your BAE to do this! He may enter the vagina on the side of the condom.
Step 6: When you are finished knockin’ the boots, just twist the outer ring to remove it.

9. The Diaphragm is dome-shaped and made of silicone. It’s inserted into the vagina to be placed in front of the cervix. You must use it with spermicide.

10. The cervical cap is a silicone cup that’s inserted into the vagina to cover the cervix. You must use it with spermicide.

11. The sponge is a round piece of plastic foam with a dimple on one side. It already contains spermicide. Spermicide kills sperm.

12. Emergency Contraption can be used up to 120 hours after unprotected sex. It’s best if used within the first 72 hours. There are 4 options on the market-Paraguard, Ella, Plan B, and Yuzpe. Talk to your doctor.

13. Tubal Ligation (aka sterilization) is a surgical procedure that’s done by your doctor to “tie” your tubes. It prevents pregnancy by blocking your fallopian tubes so sperm cannot get to the egg.

14. The Withdrawal method (aka pull out method) is when your man pulls out right before he ejaculates. It’s not that effective. What does Dr. Drai call people who use the pull-out method? #Parents LoL.

15. The Rhythm Method is having sex when you are not ovulating. This one is tricky. Remember you ovulate 14 days BEFORE the first day of your period. Let’s say you have your menses on the 18th of every month. This means you ovulate on the 4th of every month. The egg can only last for 36 hours BUT sperm can live in the vagina for 6 days.

16. Abstinence is when you don’t have any sexual encounters- oral sex, vagina; sex, or anal sex.

NOW let’s get back to alcohol’s effect on birth control. Alcohol doesn’t affect birth control; it affects your behavior. If you are drunk, you may not remember to use your birth control correctly or take it on time. Vomiting within 2 hours of taking the birth control pill may decrease its absorption in your body MEANING you may still release an egg. Remember ladies drink alcohol responsibly and use contraception consistently.

Until next time… it’s Dr. Drai.

Dr. Draion M. Burch, DO (Dr. Drai) – a highly respected, board-certified Obstetrician and Gynecologist – is a nationally-recognized author, speaker, consultant, and go-to media expert on women’s health and transgender health issues. He travels the country to meet with women one-on-one and in groups to provide and instruct on healthcare.Dr. Drai always makes time to genuinely help those in need. He is the founder and chief medical advisor of DrDrai.com, where he discusses actionable ideas and real-world strategies to help women take control of their health. 

Dr. Drai: 12 Unexpected Causes Of Female Sexual Dysfunction

Hello #GYNEGirls, #Preggos, and #GENTs. It’s me Dr. Drai. Let’s talk about female sexual dysfunction today. Do you experience difficulty having sex and are you not able to satisfy your partner in bed? If you answered YES, then you may be suffering from sexual dysfunction. Ladies, sexual dysfunction is common. It affects more than 40% of women in their lifetime. Every day I see a patient in my office that has this problem. You are NOT ALONE. Female sexual dysfunction (FSD) includes problems with desire, arousal, orgasms, and sexual pain that causes significant distress in your life. Having problems with desire (aka libido) is the most common. Women with this problem don’t want to engage in any type of sexual activity, including masturbation. They also don’t want to have sexual thoughts or fantasies. Ladies with arousal problems have issues with the physical and emotional changes that occur in the body as a result of sexual stimulation. Women that have orgasmic problems don’t have orgasms during sexual activity or the intensity of orgasms have decreased. Ladies with sexual pain have pain during intercourse.

Here are 12 unexpected causes of female sexual dysfunction.

  1. Aging– A women’s libido and sexual activity decreases w/ age
  2. Birth Control– Causes decreased estrogen levels leading to vaginal dryness and pain during intercourse
  3. Stress– Stress from work, finances
  4. Relationship problems– Fighting with your partner or having No trust in your relationship
  5. Mental Illness such as depression and anxiety can lead to FSD
  6. Past negative experiences– Sexual trauma (rape)
  7. Medications– Antidepressants
  8. Medical Conditions– Congestive Heart Failure, Diabetes, Hyperlipidemia, Hypertension
  9. Poor Body Image– Being Obese
  10. Smoking cigarettes– slows down blood flow to sexual organs and cause arousal problems
  11. Alcohol-affects how the body responds
  12. Illegal Drugs– affects how the body responds

Since women sometimes hesitate to discuss their sexual problems with one another, many of them start believing that they are not normal and their sexual problem is shameful. Don’t believe the HYPE. Be open and honest with your doctor. If getting older has affected your love life. There a fix. If you have some concerns about your sex life. There is a fix. If you do not enjoy sex like you use to. There is a fix. Your doctor will perform a thorough history to pinpoint any problems surrounding the FSD diagnosis. She will do a physical exam and a pelvic/bimanual exam, re-create the pain by touch, and order blood test to measure hormone, cholesterol, and glucose levels. Each type of female sexual dysfunction is treated differently. Treatment is complex. Your doctor may refer you to a sex therapist, couples’ therapy, or individual therapy.

Until next time… it’s Dr. Drai.


Dr. Draion M. Burch, DO (Dr. Drai) – a highly respected, board-certified Obstetrician and Gynecologist – is a nationally-recognized author, speaker, consultant, and go-to media expert on women’s health and transgender health issues. He travels the country to meet with women one-on-one and in groups to provide and instruct on healthcare.Dr. Drai always makes time to genuinely help those in need. He is the founder and chief medical advisor of DrDrai.com, where he discusses actionable ideas and real-world strategies to help women take control of their health. 

Dr. Drai: 10 Myths About The Female Orgasm

Hi #GYNEGirls! It’s me Dr. Drai. Let’s chat about the BIG “O”. Ladies, an ORGASM is the peak of sexual pleasure. You will have uncontrolled muscle contractions in your vagina and anus, as well as the uterus due to the release of oxytocin. Then your body releases dopamine which makes you feel like happy. Your heart rate increases, you breathe heavier, your blood pressure increases, and your entire body is flushed due to norepinephrine. Then serotonin is released which makes you sleepy. Now you know why your man falls right to sleep after he ejaculates. The body is SO amazing, right? Let’s review some myths about orgasms because Dr. Drai wants you to have the best orgasm of your life.

1. True or False. A bad relationship is a big orgasm killer. TRUE. If you are fighting with your mate, your vagina will be dryer than a desert. Remember orgasms in a woman are what I call cerebral. Your mate has to have your mind in order for you to let them have your body. Go to couples’ therapy. You also need to stop smoking and drinking alcohol. Some medications like anti-depressants can dampen your ability to “O”. If you are STRESSED out, you will not have an orgasm.

2. True or False. Masturbation is Mandatory when having orgasms. FALSE. Masturbation does allow you to learn what you like so you can teach your partner how to please you. Plus its 100% SAFE- no babies, no STDs. Have you heard of mutual masturbation? YASSS play TOGETHER. Foreplay should not be forgotten. Play with the nipples or the back of the neck. KISS more. Remember foreplay doesn’t start in the bedroom i.e. weekly date nights. Play with yourself while reading erotic books OR just watching porn. Masturbation isn’t mandatory but it can help you reach an orgasm quicker.

3. True or False. Ben-wa balls Tighten the vagina, which makes you have better orgasms. TRUE. Since the balls are weighted, you have to use your muscles in the vagina to hold them in. Buy the ones with the string attached to them. This way you can increase resistance by tugging on them. Your pelvic floor muscles will be strengthened i.e. your orgasm will be stronger.

4. True or False. Sex toys make having orgasms easily. TRUE. Just make sure that they are smaller than your man’s penis. There’s only one Mandingo in your bedroom and it’s your husband. Only purchase sex toys- dildos, vibrators, anal beads-that are made with 100% silicone. This material doesn’t have pores in it so bacteria can’t hide out and silicone won’t cause cancer. Just like masturbation, playing with sex toys will help you learn your makes your body climax quicker.

5. True or False. Tickling your A-spot will cause you to orgasm. TRUE. The A-spot (Anterior Fornix) is an erogenous zone that’s located in the vagina just above your cervix. He (or she) can get to this spot in the missionary position. It takes deep penetration to hit THIS. That’s why your vagina gets wet with that DEEP THRUSTING.

6. True or False. Stimulating the PS-spot is necessary to orgasm when having anal play. TRUE. When having anal sex, relax AND use lube (and condoms of course). There’s a PS (perineal sponge) spot in the rectum. It’s an erogenous zone that’s located where the male prostate would be. Google it! Hit this spot to reach ecstasy. When having vaginal sex, your BAE is hitting that spot in doggie style. That’s why you love it.

7. True or False. Your G-Spot is not real, so finding it can’t help you reach a climax. FALSE. The G-Spot feels like a walnut AND is located just inside of the vagina 2 cm from the opening at the top. Feel it with your finger. Practice makes perfect.

8. True or False. I like teaching about the spots to hit during sex. Your U-Spot is stimulated to help you squirt during the BIG “O”. TRUE. The U-Spot is located just inside of the vagina at the top- right below the urethra. Tickling this spot may make you “squirt.” The Skene’s Glands (aka Female Prostate) is located beside the urethra on both sides. This gland releases ejaculate after your orgasm. Only 10% of you #GYNEGirls will squirt! Don’t stress over this. As long as you are reaching the BIG “O”, you are fine hunni.

9. True or False. Stimulating the clitoris & mind are the easiest way you can orgasm. TRUE. Don’t skip the CLIT! The clitoris and penis are made of out the same tissue. #GENTS-If you give the Clit some ORAL lovin’, it will expand just like your penis. Watch it grow! The Clit is way more sensitive- it has 8,000 nerves while your penis only has 4,000 nerves. #GENTs- NOW you know why that’s her spot. DO NOT skip the clit! PLEASE! Foreplay starts in the head.

10. True or False. Eating aphrodisiac foods is helpful when you want to get in the mood. TRUE. There are nitrates in leafy greens & beets, flavonoids in dark chocolate, protein in pistachios, & antioxidants in watermelon. Chile Beyonce KNEW the secret. There are lycopene in tomatoes & grapefruit AND Zinc in Oysters. Even avocados can make you climax!

Do these myths sound familiar? I know right. Here’s my BIG takeaway- just relax, have fun, and enjoy the ride. It’s time for you to have the best orgasm of your life.

Until next time… it’s Dr. Drai.

5 Surprising Common Causes Of Vaginal Pain – Dr. Drai

Hi, #GYNEGirls! It’s me Dr. Drai…. How many of you have ever had pain in your vagina? Ladies, vaginal pain is real! I see at least one patient daily that complains of pain in her lady parts. But before we dive into some common causes of vaginal pain, let’s review some female anatomy. We all use the word “vagina” to refer to the whole package down there, but the vagina is actually the canal between your vulva and the cervix.

On the other hand, the vulva includes many different parts: the opening of the vagina, the inner and outer labia (lips), the clitoris (this one needs no intro), urethra (the hole you urinate out of), and the perineum (the space between the bottom of the vaginal opening and the anus). Here are 5 surprising common causes of vaginal pain.

  1. Vaginitis: Vaginitis is inflammation of the vagina that is caused by yeast or bacteria. With vaginitis, ladies typically present with vaginal itching, discharge, and/or burning. Specific causes of vaginitis include:
    1. Yeast infection: 75% of all women have at least one yeast infection in their lifetime. Typically, when you have a yeast infection, your vaginal discharge looks like cottage cheese. If yeast is suspected, your doctor will obtain a sample of the discharge and look at it under a microscope for diagnosis.
      Antifungal vaginal creams or a pill can take care of vaginitis caused by yeast. If you are prone to yeast infections, you should take some steps to prevent their reoccurrence: avoid wearing tight fitting pants, when wet from showering make sure you dry off completely, wear cotton undies, and limit sugar in your diet.
    2. Gonorrhea: It is estimated that 820,000 cases of gonorrhea occur yearly. With gonorrhea, you will have a greenish vaginal discharge. Your doctor will obtain genital cultures from the vagina or obtain a urine sample to diagnose this STI.
      To treat gonorrhea, we need use two antibiotic medications at the same time. Your partner also needs to be treated to prevent reinfection. You should know that there are some cases of drug-resistant gonorrhea. Always wear condoms when having any type of sex to protect yourself!
    3. Chlamydia: Chlamydia is the most commonly reported STI, with over 1.4 million infections noted annually. Ladies may not have any vaginal discharge with this infection. Your doctor will obtain genital cultures from the cervix or obtain a urine sample to diagnose this. Just like with gonorrhea, you need to take antibiotics to treat this. Your partner also needs to be treated. Untreated chlamydia can affect your other pelvic parts and can cause you to be infertile. Once again, make sure you use condoms!
    4. Trichomoniasis: This is an STI characterized by a fishy, smelly gray looking discharge. It is estimated that 2.3 million women have beeninfected with the disease. As is the case with the other two STIs listed here, if you are diagnosed with trichomoniasis by your doctor, you need to take an antibiotic. Your partner also needs to be treated. Condoms, condoms, condoms!
    5. Bacterial vaginosis: Bacterial vaginosis is the most common vaginal infection in women ages 15-44. It’s caused by an imbalance in vaginal flora (bacteria). When you douche, take tub baths in bleach-cleansed tubs, use feminine washes or wipes, use scented tampons or pads, or shave your vulva with creams, you at putting yourself at risk of getting this. With bacterial vaginosis, bad bacteria in your vagina outnumber the good bacteria, leaving a fishy smell.
      You need to take antibiotics for this and stop using feminine hygiene products. By the way, side note: baldness is bad down there! Pubes keep bad bacteria out of the vagina. It also prevents friction when you are “knockin” boots.”

2. Vaginal Dryness: Vaginal dryness means just what it says: a dry vagina. This isn’t just for the postmenopausal women, ladies. Young women can have this if they are on birth control pills, they are breastfeeding, taking antidepressants, taking antihistamines, taking some asthma medications, are anxious, allergic to the chemicals in feminine hygiene products (which you shouldn’t be using anyway) or fighting with their partner.

You can also have vaginal dryness due to an infection in the Bartholin’s glands. These glands are located in the 4 and 6 o’clock positions just inside the vagina. They release lubrication during sex — so obviously, this is a much-needed gland. Sometimes they can get clogged and get infected leading to them being cut open and packed or completely cut out. No natural lubricant = dry vagina. Your doctor can diagnose this one by reviewing your history. Treatment depends on the cause. Lubricants and vaginal moisturizers can help.

3. Postmenopausal Vaginal Atrophy: PAV is inflammation of the vaginal walls due to a lack of estrogen that occurs in the menopausal woman. The vagina starts to thin and also becomes dry and painful. Your doctor will diagnose this by doing a pelvic exam. Treatment usually includes vaginal estrogen. Vaginal lubricants and moisturizers also help.

4. Vaginismus: This means involuntary spasms (tightening) of the vagina muscles at the opening (also known as pelvic floor tension myalgia). Sex is typically painful for women with this condition. Your doctor can diagnose this when inserting the speculum into the vagina during the pelvic exam. Treatment includes pelvic floor muscle exercises, vaginal trainers (dildos), and counseling.

5. Vulvodynia: This is chronic vulva pain that is not caused by an infection, cancer, or skin disease. Unfortunately, we don’t know the cause of this disease yet. Ladies typically complain of a burning of the vulva. Activities like wearing tight jeans can bring it on. We don’t have a test to diagnose this. We exclude other causes of vulvar pain first before making this diagnosis of exclusion. Initial treatment includes anti-seizure medications, topical anesthetics, and antidepressants.

As a note, vulvar vestibulitis is a type of vulvodynia that is associated with pain that occurs at the entry of the vagina. This can also cause sex to be painful. Activities such as inserting a tampon can bring on the pain. Doctors use a cotton-swab test to detect pain on parts of the vulva to diagnose this condition.

Vaginal pain is serious ladies! Don’t wait to make an appointment to see your doctor. Also, by the way — stop self-diagnosing AND stop self-treating! While you might think you are saving yourself a trip to the doctor, you can end up doing more harm than good. Keep your vagina happy and healthy. For a copy of my latest book “20 Things You May Not Know About The Penis” go to https://drdrai.com/product/book.

Until next time… it’s Dr. Drai.

Dr. Drai – Dr. Draion M. Burch, DO (Dr. Drai) – a highly respected, board-certified Obstetrician and Gynecologist – is a nationally-recognized author, speaker, consultant, and go-to media expert on women’s health and transgender health issues. He travels the country to meet with women one-on-one and in groups to provide and instruct on healthcare. Although Dr. Drai may be requested to spread his medical expertise to all four corners of the U.S., he always makes time to genuinely help those in need. Dr. Drai is the founder and chief medical advisor of DrDrai.com, where he discusses actionable ideas and real-world strategies to help women take control of their health. 

Breast Cancer: What Are The Symptoms? By Dr. Drai

Hi #GYNEGirls! It’s America’s OBGYN- Dr. Drai. I have been SOOO BUSY! Running around THESE 8 offices, catching babies, doing surgeries in 2 different hospitals, and still tweaking it in media interviews. #DrDraiMedicalT #MediaPersonality #TwerkSumn LOL!  Dr. Drai has more “Medical T” to spill on breast cancer. We chatted about the BRCA gene and Risk Factors for developing breast cancer. Now #GYNEGirls I need YOU to know what to look for on your TaTas. But FIRST let’s review your BOOB anatomy.


The most common sign of breast cancer is a lump or thickening#GYNEGirls-A lump felt in your armpit is most worrisome. A lump that does not change in the way it feels is a sign of breast cancer. It may be hard, not movable, or have irregular borders.

Other signs are swelling, puckering or dimpling, redness, or soreness of the skin. Your nipple may change shape, become crusty, or have bloody discharge. Although early breast cancers are usually painless #GYNEGirls, any pain or tenderness that lasts throughout the menstrual cycle should also be reported to your DOC. Don’t wait!

Don’t forget to tell your #GENT (or #GYNEGirl) to read this blog. Breast cancer doesn’t discriminate; it can affect ANYONE. Dr. Drai wants you to REMEMBER the signs and symptoms to look for! #BOOBCheck #SaveTheTaTas Until next time…


5 New Year’s Resolutions That Will Improve Your Sex Life – By Dr. Drai

Hi #GYNEGirls, #Preggos, AND #GENTs. I have missed you. It’s me- Dr. Drai your fav OBGYN. I know 2016 is over so I want to spill some #MedicalT for you real quick. Are you ready? Here are my 5 tips that will improve your sex life for 2017. It’s about SEX. #Juicy

Tip #1 Having more SEX will actually help you lose weight. I know weight loss is at the top of your list for the new year right?

Tip #2 Get a copy of Kama Sutra. Be adventurous with your NEW partner. Hey NOW! Sex already reduces stress. Promise ME- No more stress in the new year.

Tip #3 Stamina increases with exercise. Get to the GYM now. Pump iron & do yoga. PUMP IT. PUMP It. PUMP It. Hunni it’s all about being flexible.

Tip #4 Wanna have energy in the new year? Eat right & keep “IT” tight. A healthy diet consisting of lots of protein, little carbs, lots of fiber and water are a must. Don’t forget the Kegels.

Tip #5 Get some rest to be your best. Having enough sleep improves it all- improves mood, increases energy, helps you lose weight, improves your sex drive. Chile Sleep keeps your hormones in check.

See #GYNEGirls, #Preggos, & #GYNEGirls It’s easy to combine your sex life with your total wellness. Okay now I’m about to miss a plane so I gotta go. Love ya’ll. Remember Exercise, Eating Healthy, Sleeping well all lead to a SEXY and NEW you in the NEW year.